Leaders ask for help

I believe that every person who is called by God to achieve a specific goal, has the qualities to be a leader. In fact the Word of God says that we are the head and not the tail. To me this means that we are created to be leaders and not followers. Leaders in the sense of helping each other to move forward in life and helping others to get closer to God.

Put in a different way, we will always be at the top and never at the bottom because in Deuteronomy it says: “The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.” {chapter 28:13}

The reason for writing this post is to share with you that you are called to be a leader and that you should ask for help if you want to accomplish your goals (that which God has called you to do).

My way to encourage you to ASK for help is to help you become aware of some of the benefits it has. I am going to share 3 good reason why you, as a leader, should ask for help and/or support.

Reason number one: Focus

When you ask for help or support it helps you to stay focused and energized because you don’t have to do everything all by yourself. By sharing some tasks with others who are qualified to do it, you help yourself to not get overwhelmed or burned out. You can stay in the flow and keep having fun.

Reason number two: Opportunities

Did you know that by allowing others to help you ,you actually give them the opportunity to use or develop their own gifts and talents? In fact, you are giving them the chance to shine together with you. That is a wonderful blessing!

Reason number three: Imperfection

Asking for help makes you vulnerable and proofs that you are not perfect. But it allows you to connect with everyone else around you because they are also not perfect. But the beautiful thing is that helping each other gives room to GROW. Isn’t that great!

In the end it all comes back to allowing God to work through others and help us see (or experience) that He is here with us to help and bless us. Hallelujah!!!

Question….who can you ask for support today?

Be Passionate

I have worked with two wonderful ladies in the past 3 months and it has been a very active but inspiring period. They wanted me to coach them so that they could complete their book and publish it within 4 months.


Everything went as planned!

Every two weeks they had to work hard to make the necessary changes, add new content and find the right resources (or people) to create their book the way they wanted it. It was a very intensive but very fulfilling period!


Working with these wonderful ladies made me realize again how important it is to be passionate about what God has called us to do. When you are passionate you are willing to work hard. And without hard work there will be no accomplishment!


Here are some tips to help you stay focused and achieve your goal within a short period of time:

  1. Pray when you feel discourage, stressed out or worried
  2. Keep doing what you have planned, no matter what is going on around you (unexpected challenges)
  3. If you can’t do everything just do a little bit. A little bit is better than nothing!
  4. Work together with a coach or another professional. They know how to help you.
  5. Have fun and do the things you like when you are not working on your book (or goal). Relax yourself!


I know these tips will help you so feel free to share this article with others.

I am looking forward to hear from you so that we can work together and fulfill God’s calling in your life! If you are ready now, you can click here to book your FREE Clarity call with me.


Have a blissful week my lovely Sister!


I made a video on SELF-RESPECT and there are 2 things I want you to think about!

Inspirational Scripture: Proverbs 31:25 – “Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future.”

Your Job, Career or Calling?

Last night I had a very important conversation with one of our Sisters in Christ who found herself in a dilemma. She had been working hard to move upward in the company where she works now but for some ‘strange’ reason nothing that she did really worked. But there was ONE INTERESTING THING in her story….God kept on talking to her in different ways about her Calling.

When she was in a church service, when she was having a conversation with someone or whenever she was listening to inspiring christian programs she clearly kept on hearing GOD’S VOICE saying: “Let it go!” But because of her fear of the unknown she didn’t respond to God’s voice.

Last night she couldn’t do it anymore….it was too much for her, it was too clear!


Get Clarity & Make a Decision

 I am THE LIFE CALLING STRATEGIST so of course I knew what was going on. I knew she was afraid to go for her Calling and that she was worried about financial security if she didn’t have/keep a full time job (or worked more than 24 hours a week).

It’s my Calling to help you overcome your fears and doubts so you can develop the right mindset when it comes to your Calling. So I told her what God showed me during our conversation. It immediately opened her eyes, changed her emotions and gave her the confidence to let go and FOCUS ON GOING FOR HER CALLING! Glory to God!

I know she had made the right decision because God had been talking to her already for months but her fear was stopping her from responding to God’s Voice.


NOT the only one

 I am sharing this short story with you because I know that she is NOT THE ONLY ONE who has this problem. God is speaking to you as well and I would love to have a conversation like this with you too.

If you recognize yourself in her story OR if you are ready to take the first steps towards your Calling, contact me asap so we can have a Sister/Brother To Sister conversation about this!

Click the link to book a call >> www.franciscapayne.com/call 

“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. {Proverbs 27:17}

Be Confident In Your Calling

You cannot follow your Calling when you have a low self-esteem. Being confident about yourself and your ability to do what needs to be done is crucial.

Here are 7 things you can do to increase your self-confidence ASAP.

1. Think about 10 things you did very well today before you go to bed. Do this every night.

2. If someone gives you a compliment receive it, accept it and say: “Thank you!”.

3. Don’t compare yourself with others. They may look perfect but in fact they are as wonderful as you are.

4. Hang out with positive and successful people. When you do that you will copy their mindset and become more positive and uplifting.

5. Make mistakes because you can learn from them. Everybody makes mistakes…..especially rich and successful people.

6. Eat healthier. If you eat unhealthy food it effects the way you feel and think.

7. Wear clothes you feel comfortable in.

8. Watch my video on YouTube called ‘Stand in the truth of your identity in Christ’  

Believe in yourself because God also believes in you! 

Inspirational Scripture: “Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” {Philippians 1:6}

Give your best

I always say that knowing your Calling is one of the most beautiful things you can experience in life. But knowing alone it is not enough for your spirit or for God. I can still remember how my life was when I didn’t know my Calling. I wasn’t really happy and I constantly felt within myself that I wasn’t complete. This ‘feeling’ or emptiness had everything to do with not knowing God and therefore not knowing my Calling either.

When I finally heard from God what my Calling was I didn’t realize it was a Calling, I thought God just gave me some good advise on how to use my skills and talents as wise as possible. Later, when our relationship got better and I got closer to Him, I understood how He sees things and realized that He shared with me why I am here on earth and what He wants me to do in His Kingdom. Hallelujah!


The benefits

My experience is that, from the moment we take action towards our Calling, our self-confidence increases and our inner light shines brighter. We become happier and stronger women of God with a clear purpose in life.

As I said before, only knowing your Calling is not enough. There is a lot more expected from us. Let me show you three things I found out:


  1.  As a Child of God you are responsible to develop the gifts and talents He has given you to use the rest of your life.
  2. You can’t fulfill your Calling when you don’t have priorities, so refuse to be too busy with your business, family, savings or hobby. Refuse to be distracted!
  3. Be focused and committed. Give the best of your time to do the task He has called you for. Meaning, give God your very best!


When you do that God can bring out the best in you! You are called to be blessed and to be a blessing!



“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercifulness of God, that ye make your bodies a living sacrifice: holy and acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable serving of God.” {Romans 12:1}


Comfort Zone

Yesterday I made a video about  the topic “comfort zone” and put it on my YouTube Channel “Be A Winner Academy”. If you haven’t seen it yet you can click on the link  >> watch << and still have a look at it. And if it inspires you or motivates you, remember to share it , like it and subscribe to my channel so you can stay up to date!

pictureToday I want to talk about  it again! As I already mentioned, it doesn’t have to be difficult to step outside of your comfort zone when (not if) you take time to picture yourself BEING how or who you want to be, DOING what you want to do and HAVING what you want to have.

Successful people always takes time to do this! They know that it is necessary to do this because of the power that comes from this technique/method: it will give you the BOOST you need to take action. Yes, it effects your nerves, your body and your whole inner-system. This method helps you to COMPLETELY believe that you can be, do and have what you want or desire. 

In a way this method reminds me of the bible scripture: “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” {Hebrews 11:1} The beauty of this technique is that it makes you AWARE of the fact that what you picture is already yours. Why do I say “fact”? Well, because faith is a power that brings things into existence (into reality). Hallelujah!!



When you take time, on a regular basis, to picture yourself the way you want to be, do what you love to do and have what you desire to have you will very soon notice that when you talk about a certain income….you will know that it’s already yours. And when you talk about a certain job position…..you will know that it is already yours. And when you talk about accomplishing a certain task….you will know that it has already been done by you.

Why does it work that way? Because everything starts on the INSIDE FIRST before it appears on the outside! You have to believe in something first before you will be able to take action (whether consciously or subconsciously) And that is how it always goes…..just think about everything you can see around you.

Everything around you is created by someone who decided to step outside of their comfort zone the way I described above. Now it’s your time to do the same.

Who do you listen to?

listenHave you noticed that there are different voices in this world? The voice of your parents, of your friends or your family members, of your children (if you have any), of your neighbours, of your teachers, of your church leaders, of God and also your own voice (in your head and when you speak out loud).

When it comes to achieving your goals or dreams it really matters who you choose to listen to. Every day of your life matters and that makes every day important to work on the achievement of your goals and dreams. When you don’t focus on any dream or goal you can end up wasting your time, your day and even your weeks (month after month, year after year).

For now I assume that you, who is reading this now, have goals and dreams….things you would love to achieve in your life.

The moment you decide to go for something you are starting a journey, a journey to go from A to B. While you are on your way to your desired destiny you will communicate with others about your dreams and goals. The reasons why you do that is because you feel like sharing it with others, because someone asks you a question about your activities, because you are very exited or because of something else…

Almost all of us have (had) the same challenges after sharing our dreams and goals with others. Some of the people around us didn’t believe in us, some didn’t want us to go for our dreams, some others became jealous, some others started talking bad about us behind our back (or even in our face), others suddenly moved away and stepped out of our lives and so on…

In fact, it is very clear that these are not the type of people we can see or even experience as our support team! But they do help us to become stronger and more determined!


who do you listen to when it comes to achieving your goals and dreams?

Listen to people who have what you want!!

Yes! People who have what you want are your role-models….they are the ones who have taken the journey you are taking right now. They are the ones who know what it takes to get to your desired destination. They are the ones who know what to do and what not to do. And yes, they are the ones who will help you, push you and even empower you when you need it!

meet upLook for people in your area, in your city and in your country (or in another country, if you want) who have achieved the goal you want to achieve. Think about where they hang out, both online and offline, and get in contact with them. Depending on your goal or dream, you can ask them some questions on how they have achieved their goal or dream. Or, you can tell them that you are doing a research for yourself and that you would like to know if they are willing to help you with your research by sharing their journey with you. You can approach them in a way that feels good for you, as long as you just do!

“”Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety..” {Proverbs 11:14}

And if you need any other help or support just contact me for a free 30 Minutes Call by clicking on this link > Book A FREE Call!


The 5 Habits of the Most Successful People

successful peopleAre you on a journey to create the best life you can imagine? And have you been successful so far or are you struggling with some of your “old” habits? I know I did when I first started changing my own lifestyle and sometimes I still do… But it becomes easier when you have developed new habits that WILL keep you on track.

Last week I wrote an article on how you can change a habit within 21 days. The title of that article is “Change A Habit within 21 Days” and you can click on it if you would like to get some inspiration on how to do that.


Let’s talk about the 5 Habits the Most Successful People have developed. Here we go…

1.They are Goal Setters!
You can’t achieve anything good in life if don’t decide what you truly want. You have to take some time out for yourself to think about what you really really really want to be, do or have in your life. When you know what you want you can write it down as a plan, as a SMART goal! A SMART goal is Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound

2. They are Go-Getters!
Every single person who has ever achieved something good has failed in some way or another. At some points it had been difficult or challenging for all of them. Some even had to change their original plan in order to still get their desired outcome. You just have to keep going and never ever ever ever give up!

3.They are Time-Managers!
The one thing you can control more than anything else is your time. How do you plan your day or week? You are 100% responsible for your life and therefor responsible for what you choose to do in it. Do you watch too much television? Do you stay in bed too long after waking up in the morning? Are you on Facebook every single hour? Whatever you do, use your time wisely!

4.They continue to Learn and Grow!
Education helps you to understand things better. The more you understand something the better you become and the more you achieve in your life. You can focus on your goal and anything that has to do with it by reading about it as much as you can. You can also listen to audios or watch videos! The more you learn the more you grow. And remember that the more you grow to more you can earn!

5.They choose surround themselves with the Right People!
It’s very important to have people around you or connect with people who are positive and inspiring. They will challenge you in a positive way and their energy will always be good for your own emotional, mental and spiritual growth. There are enough people in the world who like to play victims or who are negative…..keeping them around you won’t bring you any good!

As you can see, you are just a few habits away from the success you truly want. Being the best version of yourself and doing what makes you really happy on a regular basis is only possible when you develop the right habits….the habits of the most successful people!

“Every single successful person has started somewhere!”

Oprah Winfrey, Nelson Mandela, great business owners, influential leaders, popular artists and other successful people all surround themselves with positive and like-minded people. Most of them also choose to have a mentor or coach in their lives, as a way to keep them focused on their goals and to keep pushing them forwards. They all knew what they wanted and realized that they could only get there if they had someone who could help and support them!

Read more about why that’s THE BEST DECISION they have ever made >> HERE!

Change a habit within 21 days!

Changing a habit can be a though thing to do. It’s not impossible but it can definitively be a challenge.How often do you hear someone who is addicted to drugs or cigarette say that they will stop within 21 days? I don’t think you have ever heard that or that you have heard that often…..

However, it is possible to change any habit within 21 days WHEN you truly go for it……no matter what!

changeI can tell you that I know someone who has managed to do that. Well, not the drugs but the cigarette. And I truly believe that when you really really really want something and really really really push yourself towards it that you will be able to accomplish it! Even though it is not easy….

I remember the first day I bought nicotine patches to stop smoking cigarette.
I was nervous and I didn’t know how my body would react if I would use them. But before I bought them I first had a looooong conversation with the pharmacist because I wanted to understand how these things could really help me IF I would go for it 100%.
I didn’t want to buy the patches without having the guaranty that they would do their work!

That may sound funny but I believe that when I am willing to do my part whoever I am working with or whatever I am using has to do their/it’s part as well. It has to be a WIN-WIN situation! That’s how I think.

So when I understood how it worked I bought them and went home.


Have you ever heard of “massive” action?

No? Okay, allow me to show you what it looks like when you want to achieve an important goal and take “massive” action to achieve it!

Because I had decided to stop smoking cigarette and really wanted to give my best:
1. I took a jar, placed it in the middle of the table (in my living room) and made an appointment with myself that I would put all the money in it that I normally use to buy my cigarette. I did this every two or three days.

massive2. I also told my children what I had decided (to quite smoking) and asked them to support me. This meant that they could talk to me whenever they saw that I wasn’t sticking to my own decision or that I was doing something that didn’t help me to stop smoking.

Later that day I remembered that I had bought a little book a few years ago, from a author called Allen Carr. This man seemed to be an expert on helping people to quit smoking. So, I went to my room to search for the book and found it between all my other “self-help” books!

3.So, I decided to read this book whenever I would have a hard time “not smoking” or whenever it would feel too difficult to keep going.

4. And last but not least, I stood in front of the mirror every day to declare to myself that “I am living a healthy and smoke-free life”!

These four extra steps helped me to stop smoking cigarette WITHIN 21 days….I stopped on the 16th day! And now we are four years later! That’s what I call the power of taking “massive” action!

Conclusion: When you really really want to change a habit it is possible to change it within 21 days. All you need to do is to believe that you can do it and make some (extra) supporting choices (take massive action) to help you win!

If you want to brainstorm together about what kind of “massive action” you can take to help you to change your habit, just send me an email (support@franciscapayne.com) and book a 60 minutes Brainstorm Session with me. If I can do it, you can do it too! Just believe in yourself!